"...(My) word is all I have." -- Jay-Z -- Moment of Clarity
I realize more and more that I really can't trust people these days. I learned to not expect anything from anyone but myself and those who have given an important part of themselves in exchange for a part of me.
If you cross me, I can still be cordial and I can still act like I like you because, at the end of the day, I can probably still make money with you. What I cannot do is turn my back to you and that is because of one thing - I refuse to get stabbed in it. If I do trust you and you stab me in it, that only speaks to the caliber of man/woman you are. And if you think I'm talking to you, I probably am not, but since you think so, I still am and just don't know it yet. Be real. Be trust worthy.
Litera scripta manet. - Unknown
Showing posts with label integrity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label integrity. Show all posts
Monday, November 15, 2010
Thursday, June 3, 2010
Retired Jersey
"My intentions are good, but most importantly, my actions match." -- Deryle Daniels, Jr.
I won't lie. Falling in love is something that I didn't want to do. Especially not with her because I could see that she had the potential to be exactly what I needed. I was playing the game and playing it well, if I do say so myself. Juggling like a clown and always doing the opposite of what a loser does. I had just gotten off line, was a member of the Playboi Pi Zeta chapter and I was recently single. So why risk giving all that up? For the same reason I didn't want to fall in love with her... because I knew what potential she had. For over a year, I had noticed the way she carried herself around campus. She came in more mature than most of her peers and I saw her grow even further apart from them. I saw a focus in her that made me smile. She was driven, intellectual, and positive. Who wouldn't want someone like that? Me. Because I knew that, in order to take advantage of the opportunity to date someone so like-minded, I would have to give something up. That something would have to be the game. At first I was somewhat hesitant. You know, it wasn't like I was going to completely cut off everyone else after the first couple dates. But soon, I was talking to her every night. We were enjoying one another's company. We knew it was time to give the game up. It was hard, but I did. Not for me to be happy, but for her to feel safe in our relationship. I don't want either of us to ever get too comfortable, but safety and security is one thing that is a must. I feel like we have that, all provided by God.
Just some things on my mind.
Litera scripta manet. - Unknown
I won't lie. Falling in love is something that I didn't want to do. Especially not with her because I could see that she had the potential to be exactly what I needed. I was playing the game and playing it well, if I do say so myself. Juggling like a clown and always doing the opposite of what a loser does. I had just gotten off line, was a member of the Playboi Pi Zeta chapter and I was recently single. So why risk giving all that up? For the same reason I didn't want to fall in love with her... because I knew what potential she had. For over a year, I had noticed the way she carried herself around campus. She came in more mature than most of her peers and I saw her grow even further apart from them. I saw a focus in her that made me smile. She was driven, intellectual, and positive. Who wouldn't want someone like that? Me. Because I knew that, in order to take advantage of the opportunity to date someone so like-minded, I would have to give something up. That something would have to be the game. At first I was somewhat hesitant. You know, it wasn't like I was going to completely cut off everyone else after the first couple dates. But soon, I was talking to her every night. We were enjoying one another's company. We knew it was time to give the game up. It was hard, but I did. Not for me to be happy, but for her to feel safe in our relationship. I don't want either of us to ever get too comfortable, but safety and security is one thing that is a must. I feel like we have that, all provided by God.
Just some things on my mind.
Litera scripta manet. - Unknown
Monday, May 17, 2010
Actions and Wors Go Hand in Hand
Actions speak louder than words. But actions that support the words that are spoken are invaluable. -- Deryle Daniels, Jr.
So often we say "Actions speak louder than words" and leave it at that. And it is true. But at the same time, when your actions serve as reinforcement to the words you speak, those words are priceless because they actually have value.
This goes hand in hand with the saying "A man is only as good as his word." If your credibility is shot in any relationship, be it business, romantic, platonic, familial, etc., how can you expect for your words to hold any weight? If you expect to have those around you trust you at all, you have to be able to keep your word. You can not say that you will get something done by a deadline and fail at completing the task. True, life happens, but as you get older and life continues to happen, you learn how to multitask; that is, you learn how to jump life's hurdles while typing that report that has to be on your boss' desk by 9am. You learn how to stretch your money so that, even though you have bills due, you can still take your significant other on the date you promised.
Often, when we do not keep our word, it is not because we can't but because we are being selfish. For those of you who are in college, how many financial obligations have you not honored because you didn't have the money? But very often, you find yourself in the club, at a bar, or at the ABC store 2-3 times a month spending $20+ on drinks. That is selfish. Or how often have you not made time for someone who you say is important to you but, at the drop of a hat, you are at the party? Or, one of the transgressions that too many of us are guilty of, wanting to spend more time in the Word but not taking the time to do so. I know that we have all done these things. I often have to reevaluate how I spend my two most valuable resources: my time and my money.
I cannot say that I am anywhere near where I want or need to be in making sure each of my actions match my words but I can say that I do value my relationships now much more than I used to. The older we get, the more people we know that pass away. And as I see them go, I must say that I do not want to miss another opportunity to see the people I care about on a regular basis. The end.
Litera scripta manet. - Unknown
So often we say "Actions speak louder than words" and leave it at that. And it is true. But at the same time, when your actions serve as reinforcement to the words you speak, those words are priceless because they actually have value.
This goes hand in hand with the saying "A man is only as good as his word." If your credibility is shot in any relationship, be it business, romantic, platonic, familial, etc., how can you expect for your words to hold any weight? If you expect to have those around you trust you at all, you have to be able to keep your word. You can not say that you will get something done by a deadline and fail at completing the task. True, life happens, but as you get older and life continues to happen, you learn how to multitask; that is, you learn how to jump life's hurdles while typing that report that has to be on your boss' desk by 9am. You learn how to stretch your money so that, even though you have bills due, you can still take your significant other on the date you promised.
Often, when we do not keep our word, it is not because we can't but because we are being selfish. For those of you who are in college, how many financial obligations have you not honored because you didn't have the money? But very often, you find yourself in the club, at a bar, or at the ABC store 2-3 times a month spending $20+ on drinks. That is selfish. Or how often have you not made time for someone who you say is important to you but, at the drop of a hat, you are at the party? Or, one of the transgressions that too many of us are guilty of, wanting to spend more time in the Word but not taking the time to do so. I know that we have all done these things. I often have to reevaluate how I spend my two most valuable resources: my time and my money.
I cannot say that I am anywhere near where I want or need to be in making sure each of my actions match my words but I can say that I do value my relationships now much more than I used to. The older we get, the more people we know that pass away. And as I see them go, I must say that I do not want to miss another opportunity to see the people I care about on a regular basis. The end.
Litera scripta manet. - Unknown
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